Are you tired of that inner voice that constantly tears you down? In this episode, we dive into powerful strategies to silence your inner critic and create a mindset rooted in self-love and confidence. Learn how to reframe self-sabotaging thoughts, build a compassionate relationship with yourself, and practice techniques that boost your emotional resilience. Whether you’re seeking more peace in your daily life or looking to strengthen your relationship with self-love, this episode is packed with insights and actionable steps to help you thrive. Tune in and discover how to become your own biggest supporter!

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Nadja Hagen [00:00:09]:
Are you ready to go? From Am I good enough to wait? Is this even good enough for me?

Nadja Hagen [00:00:16]:
Welcome to the Self Love Sessions podcast.

Nadja Hagen [00:00:19]:
I’m Nadja Hagen, your hostess and self love coach for all your high achieving women recovering from people pleasing and ready to prioritize yourselves. In this show I share actionable tips and tools to help you set healthy boundaries and prioritize yourself so that you can intentionally build your life, aligned with your values and finally build mutual connected relationships without the need to pretend to be someone you’re not. Let’s Dive Into Today’s Episode.

Nadja Hagen [00:00:53]:
Welcome back my friend, to another episode of the podcast that puts you at the center of your story. Today we are tackling a topic that I know hits close to home for so many of us. How to silence that pesky inner critic and build unshakable self love and confidence. You know the voice I’m talking about, right? The one that says who do you think you are? Or you’re going to fail anyway, so why even try? If your inner critic has ever auditioned to be the narrator of your life, stick around because today we are going to kick that critic off the stage and replace it with a voice that actually lifts you up. Here’s what we’ll dive into. How to recognize self sabotaging thoughts even before they spiral out of control and how you can build a compassionate inner dialogue. Yes, talking kindly to yourself is allowed and techniques for practicing self compassion so you can boost your self love and confidence for the long haul. Before we dive in, let’s take a moment to ground ourselves.

Nadja Hagen [00:02:07]:
If you’re in a space where you can pause, close your eyes and take a deep breath, do it now. Inhale, hold and exhale. Let’s release the tension and set the stage for some powerful insights today. Alright, let’s get into it. So let’s start with recognizing those sneaky self sabotaging thoughts. You know the ones. They show up uninvited when you’re trying to do something new or step outside your comfort zone. Maybe it’s that little whisper you’re not good enough or everyone else has it all figured out except you.

Nadja Hagen [00:02:50]:
Sound familiar? Here’s the inner critic isn’t a reflection of reality. It’s a reflection of fear, doubt and past experiences that no longer serve you. The first step in silencing it is to recognize it for what it is. Just a thought, not a fact. Let me share a personal story. I remember a time when I was about to launch a new program. The self doubt was loud. What if no one signs up.

Nadja Hagen [00:03:25]:
What if they hate it? My inner critic was full on Karoko mode, singing the greatest hits of Imposter syndrome. But you know what I did? I named it. I said, oh, hey there, Doubtful Debbie. Thanks for showing up, but I’ve got this under control. Naming that critical voice helped me separate it from my identity, and that’s a huge thing. And step forward. So the next time you catch your inner critic throwing shade, try this. Pause.

Nadja Hagen [00:03:56]:
Take a deep breath. Ask, is this thought helpful? Is it kind? Is it even true? Most of the time you realize that your inner critic is about as reliable as a weather app in a storm. And when you recognize those thoughts for what they are, you can start to challenge them. So let’s practice this together. Think of a recent time when your inner critic spoke up. Maybe it was when you tried something new, or when you made a mistake. Bring that thought to mind. And now ask, Is this thought 100% true? Notice how your brain starts to look for evidence.

Nadja Hagen [00:04:44]:
Your inner critic rarely has solid evidence to back up its claims. Ok, now that we’ve called out the inner critic, let’s talk about what to replace it with. A compassionate inner dialogue. And before you roll your eyes and say, compassionate dialogue with myself, really hear me out. If you wouldn’t say something to your best friend, why on earth would you say it to yourself? Think about that for a second. Imagine your best friend comes to you and I’m such a failure, I’ll never be good enough. Would you nod and say, yeah, you’re right, of course not. You’d say, hey, that’s not true.

Nadja Hagen [00:05:27]:
You’re doing your best and you are enough. And probably also, I love you. Here’s your Start talking to yourself the way you talk to that friend. Instead of beating yourself up for mistakes, remind yourself that you are human and being human is messy, beautiful, and perfectly imperfect. One way to build this habit is through affirmations. Yes, I know affirmations can feel cheesy at first, but they work because they train your brain to think differently. Try this. I am worthy of love and kindness just as I am.

Nadja Hagen [00:06:08]:
Say it out loud. Write it down. Stick it on your bathroom mirror. Repetition is key. And if you do not believe your affirmation, try this every day. I am learning that I am worthy of love and kindness just as I am. You see? Here we go. Another way to practice self compassion is to keep a journal of wins and lessons learned.

Nadja Hagen [00:06:34]:
Especially lessons learned. Notice I said wins and lessons learned, not failures, because every setback is a lesson in the skis. Let me share another personal story here. When I first started my coaching journey, I made a lot of mistakes. I took on too much, said yes to things I didn’t really want to do, and burned myself out. But instead of labeling those moments as failures, I reframed them as lessons. Each one taught me how to set boundaries, prioritize my well being, and show myself some much needed self love and self care and rest. To help you practice this, try writing down one kind thing about yourself every day.

Nadja Hagen [00:07:18]:
Yes, just one. By the end of the week, you will have seven reasons to believe in yourself. And trust me, that’s a great place to start. Alright, before we dive into our next segment, I want to share something super exciting with you. My audio program, 22 days of you enoughness. Think of it as a mental gym for your brain where you train your brain to believe in you. The result? You’ll silence your inner critic and ditch self doubt for good. And that in less than 15 minutes a day, you stop the constant negative chatter in your mind and cultivate a supportive mindset that helps you achieve your goals.

Nadja Hagen [00:07:58]:
For 22 consecutive days, you’ll get a recorded audio session from me packed with insights. Excellent. And you start creating new neuronal pathways. Plus you’ll have a daily journaling or contemplation prompt. You choose what works best for you. It’s only $47 right now, which is completely insane at this low price. And it’s the perfect way to build your self love and confidence muscles. You can learn more and sign up@nadjahagen.com Younufness it’s like enoughness, but just with a you.

Nadja Hagen [00:08:30]:
Because the you is at the center of everything we do here. I can’t wait for you to experience this transformation. Now let’s talk about self compassion techniques. This is where the magic happens my friend. Because when you treat yourself with compassion, you create the perfect environment for self love and confidence to thrive. Here are three simple but powerful techniques to get you started. The first one is the what would I say to a friend Exercise. The next time you mess up or feel like you are falling short, pause and ask what would I say to a friend in this situation? Then say those same words to yourself.

Nadja Hagen [00:09:14]:
The second technique is the Self Compassion breaks. When you are feeling overwhelmed, try this quick. Place your hand over your heart. Take three deep breaths. This is hard right now, but I’m doing the best I can. I’m enough and I’m doing more than enough. The third one is the Celebrate Small wins technique. Every day, take A moment to celebrate one small win.

Nadja Hagen [00:09:52]:
Maybe you got out of bed when you didn’t feel like it, and for this day it’s more than enough. Maybe you spoke kindly to yourself for the first time in a while. That’s an awesome achievement. These small moments of self love add up to big transformations because you don’t need to do the big thing right now. Every single small, even tiny step counts towards something that gets bigger and bigger until it’s massively big. If you want to go deeper, try practicing Loving Kindness meditation. It’s a beautiful way to cultivate compassion for yourself and others. Close your eyes, breathe deeply and silently.

Nadja Hagen [00:10:36]:
Repeat phrases. May I be happy, May I be healthy, May I be free from suffering. Over time, you’ll feel a sense of warmth and connection that strengthens your self love and confidence. So my friend, here’s the bottom. Silencing your inner critic and building lasting self love and confidence isn’t about being perfect. It’s about showing up for yourself every day, flaws and all, and choosing to be your own biggest cheerleader. In today’s episode, we’ve tackled how to recognize and challenge self. Sabotaging thoughts, quiet the inner critic and replace negativity with a compassionate inner dialogue.

Nadja Hagen [00:11:21]:
You’ve learned how to reframe self doubt, practice self compassion with actionable techniques like the what would I say to a friend? Exercise and celebrate small wins that reinforce self love and build lasting confidence. By silencing your inner critic, you create space for a kinder, stronger version of yourself to thrive. Self love isn’t a one time event, it’s a practice and every small step counts. And remember, you are the narrator of your story and you get to decide whether your inner critic or your inner champion takes the mic. I’m rooting for the champion every single time. Thank you so much for spending this time with me today. And don’t forget to check out the 22 Days of Enoughness at nadjahagen.com enoughness and if you loved this episode, share it with a friend who needs a little extra self love and confidence in their life. Until next time, take care of yourself, be kind to yourself, and remember, you’re more than enough.

Nadja Hagen [00:12:28]:
Talk to you in the next episode.

Nadja Hagen [00:12:32]:
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